Happy Friday fellow foxes!
To get the weekend started on a positive note, I thought I would share my secrets for a happy, fulfilled life.
- BE SELF-AWARE
‘Happiness is a completely subjective experience and differs according to each individual,’ says Warren Munitz, life coach and founder of Integrative Life Coaching. ‘But truly happy people have a balanced psychological perspective, which means that the conscious and unconscious mind are in harmony with one another.’
In order to create this balance, Warren suggests expanding your personal self-awareness. ‘By connecting with your deeper self, you will find a sense of purpose and meaning. Having a purpose in life is what makes people feel fulfilled,’ he says.
There are various ways to tap into self-awareness, from doing activities you enjoy to practising yoga and meditation or seeing a therapist or life coach for guidance. The better you know yourself – your passions, your goals, your beliefs – the happier you will be. Happiness is not something you achieve by losing weight, earning a higher salary or finding your ideal partner, but rather it is the acceptance of your true self.
- PRACTISE SELF-REFLECTION
‘Everything in life is a projection of one’s own unconscious thoughts,’ says Warren. ‘When we resist something, it is usually because we are denying an aspect that is reflected in ourselves.’ This usually ends with us projecting negative feelings on to others, without acknowledging or even being aware that we’re doing it.
For this reason, self-reflection – when a person is able to step out of their situation and recognise an uncomfortable feeling or insecurity they have – is an important part of happiness.
- ALTER YOUR ATTITUDE
‘If you want enduring satisfaction, you have to approach life with a mindset that allows you to walk on the bright side, no matter what’s thrown at you,’ says Dan Baker, co-author of What Happy People Know. A 1978 study from the University of Massachusetts found that paralysed accident victims were about as positive about the future than lottery winners because their accidents taught them not to sweat the small stuff in life.
You need to select your thoughts like you select your clothes in the morning. Try looking at difficult situations and painful experiences as opportunities to learn and grow, trusting that something good will eventually come out of them. Seeing things differently will help you react differently.
- COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS
Gratitude is the gift that keeps giving – the more grateful we are for what we have, the more good we’ll find in our lives.
Make a daily mental list of three things or people for which you are grateful. This will slowly retrain your brain to focus on the present and the positive. By telling these people how blessed you are to have them in your life, you will also make them happy.
- GIVE AND RECEIVE LOVE
Our relationships play a huge role in how happy we are because they provide us with a comforting sense of belonging. ‘Spending time with loved ones strengthens the human connections that silence those self-defeating thoughts and improve your mood,’ explains David Niven, Ph.D., author of The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People.
Examine the connections you value the most and ask yourself how you can be a better friend, partner, family member or colleague. Love and happiness go hand in hand, so love as much as you can and accept love in return.
- EMBRACE THE HERE AND NOW
Everything that has happened in your past has led you to become exactly who you are today. Your family history, your education, your experiences, your choices – these things belong to you and cannot be taken away from you.
Truly happy people like who they are, take responsibility for where they are and are able to enjoy the very moment in which they currently find themselves. This means letting go of grudges from the past and forgiving those who may have wronged you. This inner peace results in even more energy to savour life’s little joys.
Please share your own mood-lifters with me.
The Fashion Fox